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Warning Signs of Domestic Abuse

Warning Signs of Domestic Abuse

  Feeling the effects of domestic abuse? Want to feel less stressed or anxious or depressed? In just a minute's time this sample vibrational healing set will balance your body's major energy centers (chakras). You might feel tingly or warm or just feel more relaxed and peaceful. Click triangle to balance your chakras now. Then continue on to read the articles below.

Below is a list of warning signals to help you determine if your mate or date is a potential (or actual) abuser. It is from an old Ann Landers column. After that is a personal account by Sylvia Browne of her own victory over domestic abuse.

Be careful if you mate displays any of the following signs:

  1. Jealousy of your time with co-workers, friends and family.
  2. Controlling behavior. Controls your comings and goings and your money and insists on "helping" you make personal decisions.
  3. Isolation. Cuts you off from supportive resources such as telephone pals and colleagues at work.
  4. Blames others for his problems. Unemployment, family quarrels - everything is "your fault."
  5. Hypersensitivity. Easily upset by annoyances that are a part of daily life, such as being asked to work overtime, criticism of any kind, being asked to help with chores or child care.
  6. Cruelty to animals or children. Insensitive to their pain and suffering, may tease and/or hurt children and pets.
  7. "Playful" use of force in sex. May throw you down and hold you during sex. May start having sex with you when you are sleeping or demand sex with you when you are ill or tired.
  8. Verbal abuse. Says cruel and hurtful things, degrades and humiliates you, wakes you up to verbally abuse you or doesn't let you go to sleep.
  9. Dr Jekyll and Mr. Hyde personality. Sudden mood swings and unpredictable behavior - one minute loving, the next minute angry and punitive.
  10. Past history of battering. Has hit others but has a list of excuses for having been "pushed over the edge.
  11. Threats of violence. Says, I'Il slap you," "I'll kill you," or "I'll break your neck."
  12. Breaking or striking objects. Breaks your possessions, throws objects near or at you or your children.
  13. Uses force during an argument. Holds you down or against a wall, pushes shoves, slaps or kicks you. This behavior can easily escalate to choking, stabbing or shooting.

Anyone who sees themselves in the above situations
should get help as soon as possible.

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An Excerpt from the book "The Other Side & Back"- By Sylvia Browne
Sylvia Browne is a best selling author, world renowned Psychic and spiritual teacher.

    "Domestic Abuse"

    "Belaboring how I got into an abusive relationship isn't nearly as valuable as sharing how I got out of it and what I've learned. Escaping from my abusive relationship was the most important thing I have ever done in my life. One night after yet another violent outburst, this man stormed out of the house. The instant he left, I bundled up my children and nothing else, and we never went back" ..

    Several spiritual insights and tools helped me summon the emotional strength and courage to get away from the abuse.. Cults and abusive relationships have a lot in common. They thrive in isolation and secrecy, which promote control and dependency and systematically eliminate alternative places for the cult member/abused to turn. Both cults and abusive relationships require absolute obedience to a self- proclaimed god who makes all the rules, regardless of fairness or logic of the overall welfare of the group. They are not and never will be a democracy, because if equality exists the whole structure of the cult/abusive relationship falls apart. In order to maintain the illusion of superiority, the cult leader/abuser has to constantly reinforce the inferiority of the cult member/abused and the perpetual threat of dire punishment for questioning the self-proclaimed god's authority. The initial approach is always flattering, seductive and deceptive. The cult leader makes the prospective member feel "chosen" and "privileged" to be part of something that "outsiders" are too stupid or shallow or unholy to understand; the abuser who loves the abused enough to want them all to themselves, while "outsiders" who worry and criticize are just jealous of a relationship that's really none of their business. All turmoil, unhappiness, or frustration in the cult/relationship is the fault of the cult member/abused. Everything would be fine if they'd just stay quietly and obediently submissive. The point comes when the cult member/abused has been programmed to associate submission with survival."

    "Make no mistake, in both cults and abusive relationships, everything from the first flattering hype that seduces you into isolation, to the eventual insults, fear tactics and whatever else it takes to keep you "in your place", not one moment of it is for your benefit or the benefit of your children. Recognizing that sooner rather than later can save you years of misery and possibly even save you life."

    "Even though it rarely looks that way there are usually two false egos at work on either end of an abusive relationship. Don't forget, the word ego means, "I Am". Anyone whose ego, or "I Am, is whole and healthy has no need at all to control or manipulate or bully or diminish someone else's power to feed their own. An abuser's ego is so weak and undernourished that they have to steal from whomever is vulnerable enough to let theirs be taken. On the flip side, the abused often fall into a false ego trap, too, in which they get so determined to win at the expense of their dignity, their self-respect, their sanity, safety and even their own children that they lose sight of everything else.

    "Winning" in their minds means, "you will change, you will respect me, you will love me, you will repay me for everything I've gone through to stay with you!" But telling someone they have to change while you stay with them really says "I don't mean it, you obviously don't have to change at all, since I'm still here. Telling someone you demand respect while you are tolerating constant disrespect really says, "You can disrespect me all you want, I don't mind enough to do anything about it". Telling someone you insist on being loved when their behavior toward you is the exact opposite of love gives them the message that's its okay, you don't really expect them to love you at all if they don't want to.. Remember, what ever you "accept" you're declaring "acceptable". In my situation, once I caught on to my own false-ego urge to win and reconnected with my own "I Am" and my own divine God center - and, even more, the God center of my own children... I realized that there was actually a way to win once and for all. I basically said to my abuser, "congratulations, you win, its all yours ... I'm not going to play anymore" I took my sons and never went back, and sure enough, when I refused to play, there was no game, so in the most gratifying way possible, I did win. He begged me to come back, but by then I understood that it wasn't me he wanted back, It was the false identity he'd found in abusing and overpowering me that he missed so much. He'd also given me the perfect defense against coming back, too. All I had to do was remind him that he'd made it very clear how worthless, stupid, inept, inadequate and crazy I was, so I wouldn't dream of expecting him to tolerate one more moment of a partner that was clearly unworthy of him. "

    'sic'.."Remember that at your core you are a sacred, eternal spirit, created by God, His genetic heir, When you truly know your own holiness as a child of God, there's not a chance you will tolerate even a moment of disrespect, let alone abuse. Demeaning you is demeaning your God soul, and that's not just unacceptable, it's sacrilege"


 

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